Thursday, August 27, 2015

Getting Through the Quarter Life Crisis

Quarterlife Crisis - Life Coach

It is finally happening. One day, all things look great on you on surface. A secured job, great house, lots of friends and an overall pleasant life. And then all of a sudden, you realize deep inside there is something missing in your life. You may be 25 but feel 45. As a person in their mid-twenties, you expected to be having the best time of your life but then suddenly, you feel unfulfilled and empty.

You started to question everything- how you ended up on a career path you’re not passionate about. Or how you really wanted to live independently from your family, or why were you constantly going out with your supposed to be “good friends” who actually could not understand you most of the time. Up to the point where you question the purpose of your existence. Or you do even have a life purpose. The worst part is that you couldn’t come up with any answers. Until these unanswerable questions pulled you into an anxious depression. 

The Quarter Life Crisis

Life Reality - Quarterlife Crisis
Many young adults are experiencing quarter life crisis due to some reasons. Struggling to cope with anxieties about jobs, debt, unemployment and relationships are among the most common reason. And although 25 is a special age when we stand on the cusp of new chapter in our lives, it also brings a few handful of new information that gets you really disappointed. Below are some of the things you might take a look at and see whether you are experiencing the same thing. Can you identify yourself on most or all of these scenarios?


1. You miss being in school. You were surprised that after decades of wanting out, you suddenly want back in again. 

2. You realize that things can sometimes get really boring. 

3. You no longer enjoy drinking, partying and raging.

4. You’re starting to question why on Earth should your paycheck be eaten up by taxes. 

5. You’re having difficulty making new friends.

6. Realizing you’re turning 25 and still "single". And you’re not happy with it.

7. Losing your friends due to different life directions.

8. You no longer like your job or getting bored with it.

9. After living on your own for a while, you’ll starting to realize it isn’t as glamorous or awesome as you were expecting it to be.

10. Now that you are an adult, you want to revert to being kid again. 

11. It turns out being an adult can be really expensive especially now that you actually had to support yourself.

12. Feeling confused where to head in life.

13. Being disappointed with how time quickly flown by without being able to achieve something in your career or life in general.

14. Realizing there’s only a little time for you to actually create your dream life.

15. As you get old, it seems like you understand life less.

How to Pull Yourself Out of a Quarter-Life Crisis

To get your life back on track, these tips can help:

1. Share your feelings. Talk with someone you feel comfortable with.
Talk with someone


2. Pray. Meditate. Practice spirituality.
Pray and Meditate


3. Volunteer with people. Volunteer in a tutorial service or nursing home, even outreach programs.
Socialize


4. Make plans. Break down your life into digestible pieces to ease decision making.
Make plans


5. Seek a mentor or connect with someone who experienced getting through the same situations you are in.
Connect with people of experience


6. Get a life coach or see a therapist.
Life Coach


Always remember that you don't have to go through quarter life crisis alone. It is important that you find people to help. Just trust that you'll get through quarter life crisis and come out on the other side better than ever.

If you feel stuck, depressed, or experiencing quarter life crisis and needs someone to help, let a life coach help you.

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

The Art of Forgiving

Thinking of forgiving

Let’s talk about forgiveness. Just because someone offers forgiveness doesn’t mean what occurred was all right. It is important to realize that forgiving absolutely doesn’t mean condoning the behavior which offended or hurt you. The mere fact that you no longer feed energy into the hurt, pain and resistance plus allowing yourself to heal again from the damage it caused you, is the main reason why forgiveness is being offered.

With forgiveness being mentioned, it is quite impossible not to attached the little phrase “forgive and forget’ into the topic. No, I am definitely not a fan of this famous phrase. We all know that this doesn’t work at all times. Especially when we learned something from the person or things that brought us pain and hurt. We get hurt but with every pain comes with lessons we learn. Yes we will move on, but we can never easily forget the deeds that brought a lesson. 

So the next time you encounter someone who spoke words or did things which you may find true and helpful, remember them. Learn from them and recall them when they are again helpful. Yes, you can forgive. But forget, only if it serves you best and highest good. 

If you feel stuck, depressed or anxious about career or life in general, always remember that a Life coach can help.

Related Articles:


The Power of Forgiveness

http://palo-alto-psychotherapy.blogspot.com/2015/05/the-power-of-forgiveness.html

 

The Human Spirit

http://kirkakahoshi.com/The-Human-Spirit.html 

Thursday, May 14, 2015

Palo Alto Life Coach | How to Keep Yourself Calm during Confrontation

confrontation, keep calm - Palo Alto Life Coach

Are you the type of person who used to confront people whom you find gossiping about you? Or have you ever experienced being in a situation wherein you easily pissed off on someone? Admit it or not, most people experienced this scenario at least once in their lives. However, what if you noticed that you tend to overreact over small things than the usual? You may not know yet but you might be experiencing situations that needed you to focus more on the things that can keep you calm rather on things that might make you lose your temper.

Here are the tips to help you deal with temper issues and manage to confront people more effectively.

1.  Stop, think and back off- whenever a person loses his or her own temper, they tend to scream at the top of their lungs. The outcome is that no point has been said effectively since no word can get in to their screams. What you need to do is take a moment and think whether that person you are having a fight with is really worth your effort and energy getting upset over. Do not fight back or shut down in the same manner as the person screaming at you. Rather, wait for him or her to cool down or much better, remove yourself from the situation before you do something you might regret in the future. This might sound a bit hard to do at first. But rest assured that it will be much easier for you to calm down and communicate with the person effectively if you try this simple step of stop, think and back off.
keep calm - Palo Alto Life Coach


2.  Give yourself a “me time”- spending time alone when you are experiencing temper issues helps you rethink the situation more effectively. Most of the time, angry people are just hurt people. In order to calm you down, give yourself some moment to spend alone. You may try listening to your favorite music, going for a run, calling a friend or even crying it out loud.

gather thoughts - Palo Alto Life Coach


3.  Articulate your thoughts clearly- in order for the offending party to hear and understand your point, it is important to collect your thoughts and articulate it as clearly as possible. Most of the time, the most effective way for you to easily understand by your peers is to make them see your softer side and make them understand why you’re hurt. This will help them realized what they've done wrong and eventually ask for reconciliation.

confront - Palo Alto Life Coach

Tip: Use “I” statements during confrontation. This will enable you to reach out to the opposing party what you really feel about the situation. For instance, instead of saying “You are a total crap for getting these people without my permission”, try using statements like “I feel disrespected for inviting people over the house without discussing it with me first”. Your statement can solve or even worsen the scenario.

4.  Forgive, try to forget and move forward- there is a saying that it is much easier to forgive than to forget. If you still can’t afford to forgive the person who wronged you, realized that it won’t help if we harbor hatred in our heart. So the most effective way to move forward is to forgive the person. Especially if you feel that the person has genuinely apologized, forgive him or her and move on with your life.

forgive and forget - Palo Alto Life Coach


Being in a situation where you are caught confronting your peers can make or break your relationship with them or even with other people. Learning how to deal with temper issues the right way is essential to help you know yourself better and be a better person in the future. Once you learn these techniques, it will be much easier for you to express your feelings well without making any confrontational fights with anyone.

Related Articles:

 

The Power of Forgiveness

http://palo-alto-psychotherapy.blogspot.com/2015/05/the-power-of-forgiveness.html


Between Pride and Friendship

http://san-francisco-life-coach.blogspot.com/2015/08/between-pride-and-friendship.html